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The relationship between a mother and her son is a very important relationship to have. It plays a huge role in influencing the way a man treats his romantic partner. When the relationship is a healthy one, the son will learn to show respect, love and affection towards his partner while, at the same time, is able to be independent from his mother. It is a different story however, when the relationship between mother and son becomes so dependent to the point that he becomes unable to make decisions without consulting his mother first. This is where a man is often called a "mama's boy", where he would involve his mother in every single decision he makes even when he has a family of his own. On top of being too dependent, a mama's boy is also the type that could never say "no" to his mother regardless of what he wants.
Being with a mama's boy is definitely not easy. It requires a woman to have a lot of patience and understanding. When your partner is incapable of being independent from his mother, this can eventually create a strain in your relationship. But, there are ways you could make the situation better for all parties involved, including yourself.
1. Accept that his mother comes first
One of the first things you must come into accepting is the fact that it is always going to be his mother first for your partner no matter how much you attempt on making yourself as his number one person. Trying to make him change that will only create distance between you and him. By allowing him to have his freedom to always choose his mother first will most likely make you appear more endearing to him.
2. Befriend his mother
Make your relationship with his mother a priority. Instead of making her an enemy, make her your ally. Allow your partner and his mother to have opportunities to be together during special occasions or celebrations at your home. If his mother seems to be a bit antagonistic towards you, try to look at it from the viewpoint of a concerned mother who only wants her son to be happy, but afraid to lose him. Reassure her through your actions that you will not get in her way, but will only support the relationship they have instead.
3. Express your concern, nicely
If the relationship your partner has with his mother truly makes you feel like it is starting to affect the relationship you have, then you must communicate this issue to him. Let your partner know how you are feeling without sounding demanding and tell him that while you do not want to break their mother-son relationship, you would like a little bit more involvement in the decision-making process or more attention from your partner. There is no need to go into arguments about this, just be open and honest with how you feel and hope for the best that a compromise can be made.
