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When it comes to the rules of dating, sometimes it can be difficult to tell whether or not we as women are allowed to ask a guy out. Most of us have been conditioned into thinking that men should always make the first move. As ladies, we are often expected to be a bit more passive because if we initiate, then we would come across as being 'too aggressive' or 'too easy to get'. However, it seems that nowadays times are changing and having a girl ask a guy out doesn't seem to be such an odd thing anymore. For those of us who do want to make the first move but are afraid to or don't know how, below are a few things to remember before we take the plunge.
1. Five out of 5 guys like it and want us to do it. While most men have been conditioned to always make the first move, some men find this to be extremely stressful. Some men are shyer or feel uncomfortable taking the risk of asking a girl out and because of this, they would actually appreciate taking the back seat once in a while. To them, it is in fact refreshing and a huge compliment to have a girl ask them out for a change.
2. Asking does not equal to us being "desperate". We need to forget the negative attachment that goes with asking a guy out. Taking the initiative does not mean anything. It just means we know what we want and we are not ashamed to go get it. Any guy who makes us feel bad for making the first move is probably someone we would not want to be with anyway.
3. The more straightforward we are the better. Sometimes we think we need to drop lots of hints to show that we want to ask them out. However, the best approach is to just be very clear about it for example by saying, "Would you like to have coffee with me sometime?" Hints and signs will not get us anywhere with men.
4. It is not a big deal if he says "No". Another thing we need to remember is that just because someone does not accept our invitation does not mean we should never ask a guy out again. This is the risk all of us have to take when we make the first move. Just because we may not be used to the 'rejection' does not mean we should not take the plunge.
5. Start off with a group date if we are too scared. If we are too scared to ask a guy out to a one-on-one date, then we could always ask him out on a group date to make it seem more casual and relaxed. Tell him that we have a get together with our friends and we would like them to join us if he could.
6. Ask a guy on a casual and fun date. While we may want a romantic date, most guys would simply appreciate a fun and casual date where the atmosphere isn't too serious. It helps to ask him out to a concert (that he likes), watch a movie, and do some sports or a fun activity. The chiller the better.
