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According to Him: Should You Be Yourself on the First Date

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Ah, first dates. Butterflies in your tummies and a series of questions that provoke yourself confidence: What should I wear? Is this dress showing too much skin? Will he think I'm too easy? Should I eat something before our date? What if I get a tummy ache? Sneakers or heels? What kind of underwear should I put on?

We're pretty sure that's the scenario that plays in the head of many women (and some men). We all look forward to finally scoring that first date with the woman we like, and for the women, we're pretty sure you would want to make a good impression, because you already said yes to the date, which means you probably like him already.

So for the women, this begs the question, "Should and could I really be myself on the very first date? How much or how little of my true self and personality should I really show him? What if I show too much then he doesn't like it? What if I show too little and he thinks I'm this whole other different person?"

Let's rationalize and look at this topic practically because it really depends on the type of guy you're going out with and what's the connection like with him. Chemistry and attraction are major basics to have during the courting process. If he's really into you, he's going to want to know and see the real you as soon as possible. If he's going to be a judgmental snob who decides you are not good enough just because you burp in front of him or laugh uncontrollably with a short snort at the end, then it's probably best for you to know and get out of there as fast as possible, right?

There's a big chance that you and the guy are already sort of friends or kind of know each other, otherwise it would be considered a totally blind date (which is a whole different ball game, so let's leave that for another time). Though it is hard to blame the guy if he's turned off by you if you appeared to be unladylike according to his standards, remember that those are things that you have only so much control of — or lack thereof.

While it is important to put up a good first impression, it's not really good if you can't even be yourself anymore, and if it gets to the point where you can't be comfortable, what's the point? If he's going to get turned off or dislike you for your political views, if you have a slightly annoying laugh which you can't help, or if you have a genetic condition of sweaty palms which you can't control and have inherited since birth, then you really would not want to spend the rest of your life with him anyway, right? Just be yourself. Because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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