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You think you're ready to be someone else's spouse? Brace yourself, at least for the first year of marriage. Because marriage life is not always rainbow and flowers, but you have got to be ready. Remember, for better or worse?
The ugly habits
When you were still dating each other, he — and probably you, too — was hiding several truths in terms of daily habits which turn out to be annoying. Let's say that you never thought that he actually snores and sometimes gets delirious when he has not had enough sleep. You will be quite annoyed at first and you might lose some sleep, but you will get used to it.
The communication trouble
Talking with your husband won't be like talking to your boyfriend. As weird as it maybe, the different status might affect the way to communicate. The first year is the year of trial-and-error on how to communicate to your spouse the right way. You might find yourselves surprised to hurl some ugly words, ones that he thought were harmless. But whenever you encounter challenges in communicating, don't give up.
The money issue
His money is your money but your money isn't his? Who should pay what and how much should be on the saving account? How open is your husband about the money he earns and vice versa? Money issues are meant to be talked through together as a team. Ask a family financial planner if you may would help too.
The sex issue
Sex is a communication tool that is reserved especially for husband and wife to express their love and create intimacy in the relationship. When you marry, you might be surprised to find that you're not all over each other every minute and you're not having sex like bunnies like you thought you would! You make love less often, especially when you get annoyed, but you should talk through it together to understand each other's needs for physical intimacy.
The time management
Since you acquired the new role as someone's wife, you will have more responsibilities and less time for yourself, even more so, when your family grows. Be sure to give yourself a break once in a while. Schedule some "me-time" or some "we-time" early on to make sure that love doesn't get in the way of your relationship (or sanity!)
Overall, the first year of marriage is a period of huge adjustment. But try your ultimate best to stick together and work out the little issues. As the result, your love will only get better and stronger.
