One of the best things about being in a relationship is having someone who can love us and support us through the ups and downs that life inevitably brings. There is no better feeling than to know that our partner has got our back and that we can trust them with all we have. For us women in particular, having a man that can protect and stand up for us when we need it the most is important. There is something very loving about a man that is willing to fight for us and defend us in situations where we are being attacked be it by his family, friends or others in general. Husbands standing up for their wives have been viewed as needed and significant for a marriage to be successful. However, it is not that often that people talk about the other side of the shoe – what about the husbands being protected or defended by their wives? Don't they too deserve to feel that their ladies have got their back? This is what we want to discuss in this article today. The fact that we as women need to defend our man the same way we would expect him to defend us in return. This may sound a bit odd because the common belief is that men do not need to be protected by their women because hey, real men they can and should take care of themselves! But, in reality that certainly is not and cannot be the case. Marriage can only work if both people are in partnership with each other and that everything they do for one another is equal. It is vital that you as a wife have got your husband's back at all times and here are the reasons why:
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Don’t get it twisted - have his back prior to marriage
How many of us have found ourselves defending or speaking up on behalf of our boyfriends without any hesitation prior to marriage? During the dating phase it can be so easy to stand up for our man whenever someone says anything remotely negative about them. We could get defensive and very territorial regardless of who is speaking badly about them whether it’s our closest friends or even our dearest family members. Anyone with any negative opinion or doubts placed upon our boyfriends – we would immediately come to the rescue and show them that they are wrong. Fast forward to marriage – all of a sudden we go from “I’ve got your back all the way” to “My mother told me that you should spend less time doing your hobbies and more time with me”. We end up listening more to what other people say about our husbands and agreeing with them instead of speaking about it with them first. This is the mistake that we often make in marriage – not doing the things we used to do for our man like we did in the dating phase. Don’t get it twisted. We should instead stay as open as possible to feedbacks from our friends and family regarding our partner during the dating phase, not during marriage. A marriage should only be between the two people who are in it – this is the time to actually stand up and defend your man!
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Our man may not always appear like they need our help or even express their need for support, however it is our duty as their wife and partner in life to be their biggest supporter through thick and thin. There is a reason for why there is a saying that, "Behind every great man is an even greater woman" after all. If we love our man and want him to know it – defend him, support him and speak up for him even when everyone else in his life are doing the opposite. Let him know that we are always there for him no matter what and will hold his hands through all the good and all the bad. Our husbands need our protection just as much as we need theirs. The only difference is they just might not say it as much as we do.
