When it comes to building a good marriage with your husband to be it is vital that you not only invest in your relationship with him but also in your relationship with his parents. Investing in your relationship with the in-laws will massively help the foundation of your marriage and will make it much easier for both sides of the family to merge as one. In order to get on the good side of your in-laws, you must know how to break into them individually. This means that how you are with your mother in law should be a little bit different to how you are with your father in law. There is a difference because mother-in-laws, in particular, can be a little bit more difficult and fussier when it comes to accepting you as her future daughter in law. It will require specific approaches in order for you to connect and impress the mother of your partner. Below are 10 fool-proof tips to help you get on your mother in law's good side regardless of whether or not you naturally get along with her.
1. Always remain polite
Under no circumstances should you ever be rude or act in a snide way regardless how you are feeling that day. Nothing turns off a mother in law more than someone who is only polite at certain times and unpleasant at others.
2. Don't forget your manners
Show her that you know your please and thank you. The more you say these two things the better.
3. Speak nicely about her son
Never ever talk badly about her son in any way no matter how comfortable you may be feeling about sharing things with her. She is his mother after all and all you will get is her protective mother instincts (or claws) if you ever talk badly about your partner.
4. Get to know her
As much as she will want to know what you are about, it is good if you show the same interest in her. Don't just be answering her question, show her that you actually want to get to know her more and be closer in any way that you can.
5. Compliment her
Mother in laws love a good compliment and they will never tire of it! So, when she cooks or organizes something be sure to let her know great she is. Say these things with a warm smile to show that you are actually genuine about it.
6. Ask for her advice in life
Doing this will show her how much you respect and value her opinion. This will really make her feel like you appreciate her say and there is nothing better for a mother in law than knowing her future daughter in law actually wants to know her opinions on things that matter.
7. Bring gifts once in a while
You can never ever go wrong with bringing gifts during an event, dinner or just a casual visit. The more personal the gift the better which, you will be able to know if you make the effort to do step number 4.
8. Always offer help
Whenever she is trying to do something for the family or around the house, do offer to help even though you may think she doesn't need it. It is always a great gesture to offer and it will show her how much you are trying to be in involved.
9. Be confident
Sometimes mother-in-laws want to test your security or your self-confidence in the midst of her 'intimidation'. If you show her that you can stay true to yourself and be proud of who you are, she will be more trusting of you.
10. Act like you like her at all times!
Even if you actually can't stand her for one bit it still does not give you an excuse to be unfriendly or displeasing in any way. This is your partner's mother, you cannot escape her so it is best to just put on that friendly face of yours and act like you like her.