You're in a long distance relationship right now. You're here and he's there. Different cities, maybe different countries even, but both of you are well settled in your own places. Everything is fine until the wedding bells begin to ring, because marriage is a whole new different stage. A long distance marriage isn't the most ideal arrangement, especially if it's permanent. So, someone's gotta give. Either you or your fiancé need to move. However, to move for love is a leap of faith, even when it feels so right. It is a big and tough decision to make.
So, here are some questions to ask yourself (and your fiancé) before making that life-changing decision:
Who is making more money?
If your partner is firmly rooted to his city because he has bigger financial opportunity than you do, it's kind of possible to move to his city and support his career. If you are currently working as well, you need to think about what you're going to do in that new city. Will you continue to work? If so, can you request a transfer within your current company, or will you find new employment opportunities? You may also need to be emotionally and financially prepared to be out of work if it doesn't work out.
Who is more attached to the family?
You're born and raised in a close-knit family that has always been at the top of your priorities. He, on the other hand, has left home since college and isn't as close to his family as you are. The proximity in degree of kinship plays a big role in some people, thus this issue should also be an aspect to consider before moving for love.
Which city is the better place to raise a family?
If you want to fully support your future family, you have to consider everything. It's complicated yet worth to think over. To start, simply ask these questions: does the city offer promises of good quality living? Do they have good environment? How about the crime rate? Are there any good schools for your (future) children? And the list goes on. The point is, your family future is in your hand, so choose wisely.
Can you picture yourself being happy in the new city?
This is egocentric yet crucial because, let's be realistic, love doesn't conquer all. You may love your partner to the moon and back, but you have to love the place you'll live in too. Knowing that you will love the city and could see yourself thriving there definitely will make the decision to move a lot easier.
