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Human beings, in general, can get quite fickle minded when it comes to making decisions. Everything from as small as deciding which T-shirt and colour to wear on that day, to whether to eat rice or pasta for lunch, to what shoes to wear to the event, all the way to something as huge as picking out a life partner. We think that it's just human nature and that both men and women can be super fickle or can be just as easy in making their decisions. It all goes back to the individual.
This brings us to the interesting point of comparing how men choose the girls they want to date and the women they would want to marry. While we're sure that women will have their own take and opinions on this (flaring ones too!) and they will also have a very different take of their boys to date and men to marry, lets explore a little bit on the psyche that is the male mentality. (This is, of course, our general view and take on this issue.)
At ages 16, 21 and 28, we're pretty sure that most men will be attracted to different girls as times and trends change every few years. However, the women they would want to marry tend to have the same values, look, personality, vibes, etc., throughout their life till they indeed find that special someone.
When dating, the kinds of girls a guy is attracted to might be of differing backgrounds, education levels, body types, hair colours, fashion sense, styles etc. You could say he's being adventurous. It's most probably to find out and see what sort of combination he really likes to decide which one to spend the rest of his life with. Well, that's the general idea and point of dating isn't it?
We can safely say that the general population of guys works the same way as they go through their different age phases. Young guys just want to try anything that physically turns them on, since their puberty started. Anyone who is physically attractive, he goes for it. As he gets older, character, personal goals and views in life start to play a part in picking, he will start having preferences about his potential mate.
The way the girl carries herself in front of other people, if she is being herself and allows you to be your true self, if she's materialistic, if she's a snob or not, will all start to matter as he continues dating and usually the things he finds out within a few dates just so he can make a decision to keep dating or bail on you and move on to the next one.
The most basic rule when a guy picks which girl he starts to see would be attraction. Guys love to hang out and see what it's like being with girls of different traits and personalities, but ultimately, there needs to be chemistry. A connection that will bind the physical attraction (face, body) to her heart and personality; for her to fall into the 'marry' category.
Usually the older they get, they tend to want someone more stable, not so wild but not too boring but also ready to settle down and have a life with. Caring and warm, funny, understanding, values family, loves children, slightly adventurous instead of the party girl who gets drunk and high all the time and sleeps around, who just wants her whole life experience to be extremely fun and lavish all the time etc. Those were probably their priority when they were 18-21 years old, but when they're looking for a potential life partner, it has to be for all the realistic, right reasons. (As much as it is quite double standard.) By the time they hit a point where they are not just looking for a one-night stand or someone to hang out with for a while, they usually look for values in women, the same that they see in their own mothers.
At the end of the day, we think that nice will attract nice and that both parties will have to be physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually in tune with one another before they plunge into marriage because it is a life-long commitment.
Well, there you have it. If you're looking to settling down but you haven't met the one yet, you might want to reflect upon whether you're the type of girl men would want to take as a wife. If not, there's really no rush to tie the knot. Just keep on being yourself and enhancing yourself.
