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Sometimes we have questions in our minds that we are just so curious about and want to ask our partner. But, what we tend to underestimate is the impact that a question can have on how our partner perceives the relationship and us. A question can really tell a lot about where our mind is at and if we are not careful, we may be turning our partners off in ways that we didn't think was possible. So, in order to avoid any misunderstandings or potential heated arguments, here are 4 major questions you really should be avoiding:
Question #1: Are you attracted to other women?
Let's face it, do you really want to know the answer to this question? Because the fact of the matter is that your man does check out other women regardless of what he tells you. Being attracted to other people does not, in any way, indicate that he finds you less attractive or is thinking of leaving you for someone else or that he is comparing you to other women. Looking at and being attracted to other people just means he is being a human being. So, unless you can accept that this is just a part of being human, asking this question will only lead to an argument.
Question #2: What was your ex like?
Asking this question depends on your intentions behind it. Are you asking because you just want to get to know him better? Or are you asking because you are being nosy and you feel jealous that he has been in love before? Unless you are ready to hear what he has to say about his ex girlfriend (the good and not so good) you really want to avoid asking this question. At the end of the day, he is with you, so focus on that.
Question #3: Are you really telling me truth or are you lying?
Asking this question is never a good idea because it sounds more like an accusation rather than a question and it will put your partner on the defensive mindset immediately. There is a difference between making sure that you understand what your partner is saying and actually interrogating him. This question also screams the lack of trust you have towards your partner. Work on trusting your partner first because you will never believe him no matter what he tells you.
Question #4: Are you sure you want to be with me?
Expressing interest in your partner as a person and affirming that you find him attractive is one of the keys to a satisfying relationship. However, it is hard to be sexually attracted to someone who needs constant reassurance that they are good enough. If you need validation on a basic level, it will not be long before your partner eventually finds it hard to admire or respect you. Make sure that you like you first and enjoy your own company because this is the only way you can truly give and receive love in a relationship.
