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The Wedding of Devin & Winny by Will
by Axioo
Updated on 05 June 2017, Jakarta
Someone asked me a question a few days ago that I couldn’t stop thinking about until today: “Why do you want to get married?” At that moment, I found myself opening my mouth to speak, only to realize that I didn’t really know what to say. To be completely honest, I never really thought about it. I always knew that I wanted to get married, but I guess that I never really knew why I wanted to do it. I always thought that being married is a given thing. It’s something we do. We grow up, we get a job, we get married, and then we have a family. That’s just how I always thought my life would be, however, I never really thought about “why” I wanted to do any of it. I spent some time pondering, thinking of the answer to that simple, yet profound, question. Let me tell you, it wasn’t a question that had an easy answer… Despite not knowing why, I knew that I wanted to get married. I thought that, maybe,… No, wait. I knew… or wait, I BELIEVE that being married was going to make me happy. Yes. Being married is going to make me happy. And that’s why I am going to do it. But then, that begs the question, “Am I not happy right now?” And I find myself saying, “No.” Because I am, in fact, very happy right now. So, why do I want to get married? A credible survey pointed out that people marry for a number of reasons, among which are to have sexual relations, to get a life partner, to be loved, to provide a home for the children, to be socially accepted, to gain financial advantage, and to feel safe and secure. Then I thought, can these reasons be fulfilled even without marriage, though? Yes, in fact, they can. I guess that these weren’t good enough reasons for me to marry someone. So, after long hard thinking, I thought that the right reason to marry is, in fact, to fulfill my deepest desire for a compatible or suitable partner and to have a family of my own. To me, marriage is about knowing that I am ready for a lifelong commitment with someone I have chosen to be with for the rest of my life. The moment I found an answer to that unexpected and yet so fortunately eye-opening question, I couldn’t wait to be married. I couldn’t wait to tell my fiancé that I wanted to spend the rest of my life loving her and making her happy, because I knew deep in my heart that I was ready to do just that. To every bride and groom who are getting ready to walk down that aisle, do yourselves a favor and ask yourselves, “Why do I want to get married?” and listen to the answers you have. It’s not an easy question but I promise you that the answers will be rewarding. Love, Will
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